What should I expect?
A common answer to this question regarding Club 440 is "Expect nothing, but be prepared for anything." Don't walk into a Swinger club expecting to have sex -- desiring is one thing, expecting is another. You are not paying for sex when you pay your fee to get in a Swinger club, you are paying for the facilities and the opportunity to be a part of the atmosphere. Your success in having sex is directly related to how you interact with the people there, because it is all about people going there looking for some experience or person. However, when someone finds you attractive and you are invited to join them in a room, be prepared to quickly get everything squared away, including condoms and permission from your spouse or partner if appropriate. If you go there and decide not to bring condoms (for yourself or the person you are interested in to use) or haven't talked with your partner about if it's ok if you are invited to have sex with someone, you may be setting yourself up to miss out. Tonight could be the night! Bring condoms and have things worked out with your partner about if it is ok for you to participate with others.
What will I see?
When you first walk in it will look a lot like a nightclub or a bar with a dance floor. The earlier in the evening you get there, the more people will be dressed in nice evening/street clothes or clubbing clothes. From 10pm on, more and more of the women tend to switch into more revealing and sexier clothing, and some remove more and more clothing. To be fair, there are some women that are mostly or totally unclothed the whole night, but the trend is for that to happen more the later it gets. The unfair part (to the women) is that there are very few men that shed clothing at the club unless they are in private.
The dancing seems to follow a trend similar to the revealing clothing. The real dancing seems to start picking up around 10pm. The music tends to be a mix of R&B, hip hop, top 40, rock, country, and some of the party line dances (think "cupid shuffle" & "electric slide", usually not the "chicken dance" or "hokey pokey"). There will be music with driving beats that you can just move your body to any which way, and slow dances that you can just sway to with your partner.
Do we have to have sex out in the open?
If you hit it off with a couple (or single guy or single girl) there are private rooms, and there is also a secluded "couples only" open group area where you can play while others are around you doing the same thing after getting all worked up in the sexy dancing / bar atmosphere. Also, in the private rooms you have 3 options: door closed, door open, and door open with chain. If you have the door open with the chain across the doorway that means "please enjoy watching us but do not come in". If you leave the door open, that means "please come in and watch us up close, but ask before you try to join in or touch". The chain is pretty fun if you like being watched without interruptions! If the door is closed you should be left alone until you are all done. [Edit 11-Aug-2013: The chains were removed from the doors, so currently the only option is door open or door closed in the private rooms.]
What should I bring?
Bring the following:
- Cash for membership or entrance fee (MUCH easier than a credit card)
- Photo ID, membership card if a member
- Extra clothes (sexy clothes, lingerie, leather, lace, high heels, boots, etc.)
- A duffle bag or gym bag to carry your clothes and other items in and out of the club
- Combination lock for locker (set your own combination ones are best)
- Alcohol (Club 440 is BYOB)
- Sex toys (if you're into that)
Cameras and video recording equipment are not permitted inside. That means cell phones with cameras. If you need your cell phone with you but it has a camera, you'll have to leave it at the front desk when you come in. If you are seen with a camera (still or video) inside it will likely get confiscated and you will be banned from coming back by the club ownership, and individuals photographed without permission will probably have their lawyers calling you. Swinger clubs are PRIVATE places designed to make everyone comfortable "letting their hair down" without worrying about people taking pictures unless loudly announced by the club staff. Cameras are simply not tolerated.
You can probably leave extra cash at home, since soft drinks, bottled water, ice, snacks, and an entree are provided. Bring some quarters if you play pool, and $2 for NOS energy drinks if you might need it to stay up until 3am.
Also, leave the drama at home. If you eventually don't get along with someone , ignore them and stay away from them -- there's plenty of room at the club. Antagonizing them will get YOU kicked out, not them.
Is Club 440 an "on-premise" or "off-premise" Swinger club?
Club 440 is an "on-premise" club complete with with bedlinens, towels, and even "baby wipes" to use in the private rooms with plastic-covered mattresses.
As far as we know, all Ohio clubs are Bring-your-own-booze. 440 has big glass refrigerated coolers so you can store any alcohol and mixers you bring and make your own drinks exactly how you like them. The club supplies free food: some snacks, a hot entree (different each night), and free bottled water and Pepsi fountain soft drinks, but no alcohol, fruit juice, or "mixers". Bring enough alcohol to enjoy yourselves, but avoid getting really drunk -- most people just won't be as interested in interacting with you if you seem like you aren't in control of what you are doing.
How much will it cost?
For the official answer, go to http://www.club440online.com/ There are occasionally specials and discounts being offered, so join the 440 Yahoo group to hear about any specials and what the themes are: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Club440/
Is it better to come Friday night or Saturday night?
The best night is both nights. There is no way to predict what each night will be like or why people show up some nights and not other nights. For the first time, though, come on Friday night and pay the $50 then you get in the Saturday night that weekend for free. From then on you pay for each night you come. Also, the more you are a "regular" there and make friends and are seen there the easier it is to actually make a connection and hook up with someone there. While you are there, ask about how the Friday and Saturday crowds are, because it changes from time to time.
What should I wear?
On your way to the club wear what you would wear when going to a nice bar or decent restaurant. The dress code rules on the website basically mean that men shouldn't show up in sweatpants or a tanktop. Wear a nice respectable t-shirt, nice jeans, cargo shorts, dress pants. Basically whatever you would wear to Montgomery Inn for dinner, wear that to the club for your first visit and see what you would feel comfortable wearing the next time.
Now once you get inside it's a whole different world. When women get to the club and relax, many of them change into sexier clothing. The clothes that women find that look really good on them but are a little too revealing to wear out in public -- the Club is a great place to wear them without getting arrested for indecent exposure. Same thing for lingerie. How much do you really wear your more provocative lingerie around home? At the Club it can be your perfect outfit for the whole night! They do try to keep it a little warm in there to accomodate people who don't wear much clothing.
A lot of men don't change clothes at the club, but you can if you want to. A lot of women complain that they are the only ones that get "naked", and would like to see more men get undressed, even if it is taking their shirt off. But wearing whatever you came in is fine, and if you have fancier clothes then feel free to use the locker room to change.
What if I see someone I know?
This is a fairly common concern when you first go to a club. We were concerned, but we live in the SAME EXACT TOWN as Club 440, and we went there for 7 months without running into someone at the club that we knew beforehand. And when we did, it was people that lived an hour away that we were really happy to see and find out they were enjoying this too. If you DO see someone you know, they are there for the same reason, so what are they going to say? People that come to a Swinger club are masters at "what goes on at the club stays at the club". It's in everybody's best interest to keep everybody's privacy intact.
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How many people will be there?
You will usually find between 75 and 200 people at Club 440. Usually Fridays are busier than Saturdays right now, but special theme nights and events, especially Halloween, New Years Eve, and other special nights can make some Saturdays very busy.
What do I do if someone is bothering me?
If they continue bothering you after you tell them "No, leave me alone", simply walk up to one of the staff and let them know the issue. If you can't find staff walking around in the club, go to the DJ booth and let the DJ know. The DJ can use a radio to let other staff and the club owner know about the situation.
Are there many bi-sexual females at the club?
It appears that being bi-sexual is common for women in the Swinger community. A good estimate is that half of the women at Club 440 are bi-sexual, or at least strongly bi-curious, and that totally includes wives in a married couple. It is not a "hidden" thing at all. Most women are very open about if they are "bi" or not.
Are there bi-sexual males at the club?
Totally opposite to the bi-sexual female population, bi-sexual men are pretty scarce. If they do come to the club, they usually are not very open about it. This is one of those strange quirks of the Swinger lifestyle that promotes openness ... except in this area. The Swinger websites, however, are much more neutral about bi-sexual guys. If you are looking for one, check on the websites before you look at a club.
Are single guys welcome at Club 440?
Yes. From discussions we have had with people that visited other clubs and our brief visits to other clubs ourselves, it appears that Club 440 is probably the friendliest club to single guys in the region. Now, that doesn't mean that single guys are going to find it extra easy to hook up at 440, it just means that they are treated respectfully and not treated like they "have 3 eyes" as some single males have said they feel they are treated like at some other clubs. Keep in mind that since a lot of women coming to the club are bi-sexual (or at least bi-curious), a lot of them are looking for couples with a female or a single female versus a single male. However, we do know that there are some couples that do specifically seek out single men for their female to play with, so be open to couples -- don't just go looking for single females at the club.
Also, the more you are a "regular" there and make friends and are seen there the easier it is to actually hook up, unless you are just a really good-looking guy. But even the non-good-looking ones that hang out, mingle, play pool, and come often have a great time and get some action. The more polite, social, and respectful you are the better -- I have actually seen firsthand a woman that was not interested in a single guy change her mind when he was so polite and respectful in approaching her, and he left a happy man. Also, there are some couples that won't play with married men without their wife's approval, but there are also ones that are pretty much "don't ask, don't tell".
Are single girls welcome?
Single females are basically cherished at almost all swinger clubs. "The club is your oyster", so to speak. Single females are welcome additions to almost all couples and groups that are playing, so it is mostly a matter of preference of the female and attraction between everyone involved.
What should I be prepared for?
What is the bottom line?
Club 440 is full of exceptionally nice people. Just go there an find out for yourself. And ask the DJ to point us out and come say Hi!